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Hôpital de Bellerive
Chemin de la Savonnière 11
If you feel the need, please contact your doctor, a therapist, a chaplain, or the professionals of the establishment that supported the deceased.
Various brochures about the mourning process are available, ask the healthcare team for them:
“ My doctor is recommending changes in my lifestyle. How can I find the motivation for these? ”
Quit smoking, exercise, follow a special diet, take your medicine: such recommendations are often hard to implement in the long term, despite their justification and your doctor’s insistence. To summon up the will to act, you need to be convinced, believe you can do it, and receive support. Relations with your doctor play a big role in your ability to change.
“ I’ve just had bad news from my doctor and I'm upset. Is this normal? ”
Being diagnosed with an illness or suffering a relapse comes as a major emotional shock. For this reason, some people come out of a doctor's appointment either confused or remembering little about it. Processing a diagnosis of serious illness takes time, and so does decision-making about treatment. As a rule, a doctor will try to announce a new diagnosis at one appointment and wait to propose more information, including about treatments at a later time.
“ I don’t always understand my doctor’s explanations. Should I mention this? ”
Your doctor is under an obligation to give you clear, comprehensible information, and must seek to do so. The aim is to enable you to make an informed decision on whether to pursue a treatment or to act on a medical recommendation. Your doctor must give you up-to-date information, commensurate with your needs. These may vary from one consultation to the next.
“ How can I improve relations with my doctor? ”
If you don’t feel at ease with your doctor, it is important to discuss this with him or her and explain if something doesn’t suit you. Be up-front about what you expect from the doctor (if you need to know more, seek reassurance etc.). Say how you feel (anxious, frightened etc.). Before changing your doctor, it’s worth taking the trouble to dispel any awkwardness by steering the dialogue towards your respective feelings and expectations.
" Whenever I see my doctor, I forget half the things I wanted to say. How can I do better? ”
The 20 or 30 minutes of a consultation often seem too short to deal with all that has happened since last time. So think ahead. Take a few minutes to prepare for your appointment with the doctor and reflect about your concerns.
Illness can be a trying time, but at least you are not alone. Your doctor is with you all the way. To best manage your health, it is important that you both collaborate. And this depends on dialogue and good communication.
Selina C. est médecin en pédiatrie aux HUG depuis 17 ans. Un service disponible jour et nuit pour les enfants et les parents où les belles histoires ne sont pas rares comme celle de cette petite fille, atteinte d’un cancer et guérie, qui, cette année, s’est inscrite en fac de médecine.